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| Parenting Your Adult Child: How You Can Help Them Achieve Their Full Potential | 
 enlarge | Authors: Gary Chapman, Ross Campbell
Publisher: Northfield Publishing
Category: Book
List Price: $14.99
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Avg. Customer Rating:  (7 reviews)
Sales Rank: 24781
Languages: English (Original Language), English (Unknown), English (Published)
Media: Paperback
Edition: 1
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 200
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.6
Dimensions (in): 8.9 x 5.9 x 0.6
ISBN: 1881273121
Dewey Decimal Number: 306.874
EAN: 9781881273127
ASIN: 1881273121
Publication Date: January 11, 1999
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Product Description
Parenting doesn't end at 18.Has your nest not emptied? Has your adult child made lifestyle choices you don't agree with? Has becoming an in-law made you consider becoming an outlaw? Many parents today answer an exasperating 'yes' to these and many other questions that describe the frustration encountered between them and their adult children. Parenting no longer ends at 18, yet very few resources are available to help parents better communicate with their child who is no longer a child.Ross Campbell and Gary Chapman, authors of The Five Love Languages of Children, have teamed up again to bring us another tool for parenting. They will help you deal with such issues as: - Helping Your Child Find Success - Dealing with the Anger - When Adult Children Return with their Children - Religious Choices - Positive Parental LoveYou can survive this stage in your life. And with the excellent advice from Drs. Campbell and Chapman you can even enjoy it.
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 Don't bother! No thanks to the Religious Dogma. September 21, 2008
As the Mother of a Twenty something I searched for a book that would help me with parenting. I noticed the references to the Bible in the first chapter and it got worse after that. I take offence to material that says, in essence, homosexuality can be fixed, and to love your children but encurage them not to 'sin'. NO Thanks
 Makes a good point but I would cite different reasons August 18, 2008
1 out of 2 found this review helpful
I think that the reason giving your adult children advice is not a good idea could have been couched in different terms. Things have changed so dramatically that I am not sure that adults have that much good advice to give coupled with the vast amount of information available that was not previously available. The combination of these factors makes most parental advice to adult children irrelevant and perhaps really off base.
Take any issue: Negotiating the terms of your marriage. Prenups. Whether to have a child. Changing careers and educational paths. None of this is easy to figure out even for yourself.
A lot of middle-aged+ decisions were made for us by major religious tenets and older generations "sage" advice. Well, maybe the results weren't consistently great and, if so, we should admit that. Why does anyone think that they have that much to offer in advice anyway irregardless of age difference and relationship? To give advice as a parent presupposes either a stagnant situation over generations or someone perfectly acquainted with the current situation.
I agree with the author's premise that parental advice is not welcome once children become adults, but not for the sort of "scared to lose my kids" explanation given. There is personal humility in the recognition that maybe you didn't even do that well with certain aspects of your life and being a parent doesn't increase your brains or judgment. Let everyone do what they think is best. Just converse. Bring up a salient point if you've got one and back off from owning the point or needing them to buy it. Help to do the research if that is welcome/requested. If you can, help pack boxes if they're moving and when you move maybe they can help you pack boxes. Be friends. Parenting doesn't have to be heavy-duty once everyone is adult. Who wants it?
Important point: there are parents who have selfish motives, which are not in the adult child's best interest. Some want their children to stay at least partially dependent/interdependent on them. Some parents don't want their kids to succeed past them, or far past them. Some parents want to have power of approval on their kid's partners. Some parents want to avoid their own issues by keeping themselves over-involved in their kid's lives. In other words, parental advice is not necessarily unbiased or untainted advice.
But even if a parent is perfectly enlightened and has perfect information, age doesn't automatically convey perfect wisdom or judgment, say nothing of their decision making model. That's an old "tribal chief" idea. The only way anyone learns what is right for them is experience anyway. Let them experience experimentally. And for that matter, let's hope that the parents also continue to experiment with their lives and seek their bliss.
 Parenting Your Adult Child July 14, 2008
1 out of 2 found this review helpful
This book was useful for focusing on issues in the relationships that parents have to their adult children. The principles taught were elementary, and the perspective was entirely from the parent's side, with not nearly enough empathy for the point of view of adult children. The title of the book, not to mention many of the underlying assumptions, is very offensive to "adult children"! My adult children suggested changing the title to "How to avoid parenting your adult children..."
Not as much help as I thought... February 8, 2008
2 out of 2 found this review helpful
I was hoping for something to be more specific about struggles I was having with our adult children that didn't involve major life separation issues...plus this book is written for the "gen xers" from 10 years ago. I know it's not substantively different, but 10 years of culture and life has resulted in changes in how the young adults of the 20s view life as compared to the children that are solidly in their 30s.
Written well, though, and it did give me some helpful reminders about being an effective parent no matter the age.
 A Must Have for ALL Parents of Adult Children June 19, 2007
8 out of 8 found this review helpful
This book is awesome!!! Very loving but DIRECT and to the point. I had been searching for something with some real meat to it for my own parenting issues. Glad I purchased this one!!!!
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